Thursday, November 26, 2015
Four Gifts ~ A gift giving rule for the holidays
You may have heard of the Four Gifts rule or seen images on Pinterest, but what is it exactly and how do you buy ONLY 4 things? We've been doing this for years now and I'm going to share how we make it work for our family.
The premise is to limit giving to 4 things and follow the rhyme of giving the kids something they want, something they need, something to wear and something to read. When I was growing up we didn't always have a lot of money and so the commercialization of Christmas really irks me. And it breaks my heart thinking of the kids whose parents can't afford to get them all sorts of things and them wondering why Santa hates them. For the love of Christmas, please get your child ONE thing from Santa. Can we please all agree on that?
My kids are typical and want ALL THE THINGS! It bugs me but I get it. I want to get them all the things too. So this rule helps me from spending too much, but it also will teach them (hopefully!) to value the things they do get.
So how does it actually work? Well, every fall I start a list and I put down everyone's name that we need a gift for. Under the kids' names I put the words WANT NEED WEAR READ and I brainstorm ideas that fall under each category. I actually keep these lists in Google Drive and share with J so we can both put in ideas and update them.
The BOOK is normally the easiest present to buy. This year I chose The Day the Crayons Came Home (not an affiliate link) and just need to decide on a second book. In past years, the something to WEAR has been fun winter hats or socks. The WANT is the funnest - trying to figure out what toy the kids want most is tough, but we've done well so far. And the NEED ranges from a new toothbrush to underwear to bedding. This year I think it might be a lamp so they can read in bed.
We end up buying a few more things for each kid because they each get a gift from Santa and from each other, pjs on Christmas Eve, and stuff in their stockings. Don't worry, they aren't hard done by.
How do you decide how many gifts to buy? Have you used this rule before?