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Tuesday, October 27, 2015

The Intuitive Parent ~ A Review

All parents struggle with whether they're doing a good job. It starts during pregnancy - did I eat the right things? Did I exercise enough? Too much? Did I buy all the right things for my baby? - and continues into parenthood. Every choice is questioned, often by well-meaning relatives, friends, and even strangers. It's no doubt that we've all wondered if our kids will grow up okay and how much we should be squirreling away to cover their therapy bills.

Worry shows you care, but it can also stop you from enjoying your baby, your child. It's hard to live in the moment when you're thinking about getting Junior into the best preschool, using flash cards to give him/her an edge, and drilling sight words.

How did parents do it before technology was so prevalent? The best minds of our lifetime - the Einsteins, Nobel winners, and great thinkers - didn't have DVDs that taught words and number recognition. There were no Baby Einstein videos and certainly no fancy preschools and IQ testing at early ages.

Camarata, the author of The Intuitive Parent, argues that you (YOU!) are enough. By being attentive to your baby, you will teach them everything they need to know when they are ready to receive the information. What a relief! My years at home with my kids shouldn't have caused any lasting damage. My kids won't be behind their peers at school because I wasn't doing Pinterest-worthy crafts with them every day. Instead I was getting them to help me clean windows and taking them to Costco to get groceries.

Intuitive Parents are parents who pay attention to their babies and respond in natural ways. The author argues that even the every day things shouldn't be overlooked as learning opportunities just because they seem insignificant. A mother nursing her child isn't just putting milk in that baby's tummy. She's holding the baby close, she's talking in a soothing voice, she's providing comfort. Nursing a baby is something that happens often (sorry new mom, but you'll be up every 1-3 hours at first!) and every time your baby nurses, she is learning, taking in the sights, smells and tastes. Your baby is learning more than you know during this interaction.

And it continues with every single interaction with your child. That thought, and this entire book, was such a breath of fresh air. It was so affirming and positive. There is no right way to raise a child and everyone makes mistakes, but if we respond to our children we're doing alright.

This book really builds you up, but it's not just fluff. The author has been working with children for a long time and backs up his stance with science. There is also an entire chapter devoted to children with learning disabilities. This book will give you the courage to parent the way you want to, the way that feels most natural to you.

If you worry about your child getting the best upbringing/schooling/learning opportunities/interactions/whatever, this book will help you see that YOU are what's best for your child. Read it and tell me you aren't doing a great job.. you won't be able to.

Disclaimer: I was sent this book to review. All thoughts and opinions are my own.

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