Doula Retreat | The Life of K: Doula Retreat

Sunday, July 7, 2013

Doula Retreat

Back in May I went to a doula retreat and I haven't written about it until now. Why? Because writing about it seems wrong somehow. Let me explain, or try to explain.

I know I'm still relatively new to doula-ing, but I can tell you that it is important work and I feel so honoured to be invited to births. If you've had a baby you know that it is a big deal. It changes you.. it makes you a mother or a mother again, and your family grows. There is no way to go through pregnancy and birth without being changed by the experience.

How you view your birth, the experience you have during labour and birth, will stay with you forever. The details may fade over time but women remember how they felt and how they were treated.

To be a part of that is huge. To be invited by a couple into that space is something I have trouble describing. It means so much to me.

To be able to offer clients my best, I am constantly reading and learning. Part of my learning is done by attending meetings of my local Doula CARE group and going to things like this retreat. Being around other doulas, even if we're just making and eating lunch, is a chance for me to soak up their experiences and share my own. It's a chance for me to ask questions and hear about situations I haven't yet encountered.

Being around other doulas is also a safe space. These women are so welcoming and understanding and caring. The retreat, for me, was about so much more than learning, it was about being welcomed with open arms, accepted for me as I am, and being challenged to grow as a person.

It was a charged atmosphere and many tears were shed. To talk about it in detail would be to take away from the experience. I came away from the retreat with a head full of new information, ideas to implement, a full heart, and an envelope full of kind words from everyone there. I am so glad I was able to attend. Being a doula isn't a job, it's who I am.


  1. I spent a few years as a postpartum doula with a heavy emphasis on breastfeeding initiation and support. I loved every minute of it - even the frantic 3 a.m. "I'm worried my baby isn't getting enough milk!" phone calls. It's not quite the same thing as being a birth doula, but the intimate experience of helping women trust their bodies is much the same. I don't think my clients ever realized that, in many ways, they gave me so much more than I gave them.

    1. I didn't know you'd done that. It's not the same but it's still important work. Those first few weeks, especially with your first baby, are ridiculously hard and completely unknown territory.