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Friday, May 10, 2013

Parenting

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I've been thinking a lot lately about how I parent and how I was parented. I think everyone takes what they know and what they learn and morph it into a parenting style that suits them. I don't know exactly what you would call my parenting style, and I won't really know if it's working until my kids are grown and off on their own, but I like to think I'm doing an okay job.

Parenting is hard. Every decision, every action, I question myself. Did I make the right choice? Was I too hard, too soft? Was I supposed to be good cop or bad cop that time? Am I scarring my children for life? What will my children think when they're grown and looking back on their childhood? Will they think of me as a fun mom or resent me for the choices I made?

Most importantly, will they try to emulate me in how they parent or will they aim to do the exact opposite?

I don't think anyone can be the best parent all the time. Just like you can have an off day at work or in a game, you can definitely have an off day parenting. You can go to bed hoping that tomorrow is better because today certainly sucked.

I don't pretend to know what I'm doing. I do try to learn though. I read books and talk to people. I observe people interacting with their children and think about how I would have reacted in that situation. Every day I think about the tough parts of the day and what I could have done differently. I think about the great parts too.

I think overall I'm doing a pretty good job. I like my kids. I even chose to stay home with them instead of working, a choice that still surprises me, and would completely blow the mind of my younger self.

I think my kids are nice and polite and fun and happy. They really like each other and are happy most of the time. We have fun together even if sometimes I'm just waiting until they fall asleep for the night so I can not parent any more.

Some days I can't wait for bedtime. Some days I can't wait for J to get home. Some days I don't do my best and on those days when I go over everything that happened I tell myself that tomorrow will be better. Tomorrow I won't yell as much. I will be more present. I will do better.

Because there's always a tomorrow and I can always do a little better.

2 comments:

  1. Well said. I think we all have these thoughts and worries and joys! You're doing a great job!

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  2. I feel pretty much the same. For me, being a SAHM is my job and I devote myself to my craft. That being said, I definitely have my "weaknesses" and bad days/moments. Kids can be tough and I am sensitive to their feelings and actions. It's REALLY hard, but totally worth it. And from what I read on here, I think you are doing a GREAT job with your kiddos!

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