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Tuesday, March 19, 2013

On the importance of getting out

I went out last night for dinner with two girlfriends and it was awesome. I left when it was light out, drove a bit faster than usual, and cranked the music. If it had been warmer I would have had the windows down and the sunroof open. I was free!

We had a great dinner: shared sushi, thai food, and dessert. It was nice to sit and catch up and be ourselves and even though we talked about our kids (how can you not?) we also talked about all sorts of things. These are the girls who know me best.

It was exactly the kind of night I needed. A break from the day-to-day and some time with my friends. I'm glad to have friends who answer the Girls Night Out? email with enthusiasm.

Everyone will tell you when you have kids to still take time for yourself but no one really tells you how hard it can be. It's a balancing act, with a small window of time, requiring planning and organization, but it's worth it. And I'd like to get out more often.

I'm learning that if I don't get time away from my kids I'm not a great mother. I start to resent all the time my kids require of me. No, I don't want to read that book, again. What I need is time to myself when I can do whatever I want to do (which is usually sleep, read or write), time with J, and time with my friends. And now that my doula business is up and running, I need time to work too.

I also need to carve out time for regular exercise. I was good there for a while going to yoga once a week and I need to do that again. My body and my mind will thank me.

Tell me, do you get a lot of alone time? What do you do with yourself?


  1. I couldn't agree more! When I get out with my 2 closest friends (aka therapists), I return to my kids rejuvenated. It's not easy though...it never seems to be a good time but I firmly believe it makes me a better mother (and wife!).

  2. Floor hockey every week, church every other week, and date night once a month. I've never really been a 'girls night' kind of gal, but I love my sports/activities... and am hoping that the nicer weather brings some swimming/tri-training for me :)

  3. I went out for a drink with 1 mama friend and 1 work friend (well we all work together). It was good for me and my mama friend to get out sans baby :-) I do not get to do that very often at all!