Advice | The Life of K: Advice

Saturday, February 6, 2010


Advice. Seems like everyone has some. I've heard it all - being pregnant brings on comments and advice from everyone. You can't hide the belly forever. Now, it's all about kids and parenting.

My all time favourite pieces of advice have to do with sleep. When pregnant, "Sleep now because you won't be able to when the baby is born!" With child, "Sleep while the baby sleeps!" See I put exclamation points because the people dishing out this fabulous advice and usually smug I-get-to-sleep-and-you-don't type people. Let's discuss each in turn.

Sleep now because you won't be able to when the baby is born. Right, if sleep was bankable and I could sleep lots and not have to sleep for a couple of days, that advice would be great. Sure, I'll sleep away these 9 months of incubating so I'm well rested for the first nine months of my baby's life. Sorry, it doesn't work that way. Better advice would be to really cherish your sleep, including sleeping when you want and waking up when you want, before you have a baby because after that, when you sleep is really dependent on your kid.

Sleep while your baby sleeps. I'm lucky - my kid sleeps well at night. Not so much during the day, but guess what? I don't normally need to sleep during the day so it's okay. And even if I did, do you think I can fall asleep at the drop of a hat? Oh! The baby is asleep. Run! Also, with an inconsistent napper, my window for napping, if I chose to nap, is between 20 minutes and an hour. There's no way, I'd get all comfy in bed or on the couch just to be woken up 20 minutes later. Just thinking about it makes me feel tired.

Nope, I didn't store up on my sleep while pregnant and I don't nap when my baby naps. But thanks for the advice.


  1. I know what you mean! Besides when the baby is napping I need to get stuff done! I would hate to get all comfy and fall asleep just to be woken up before I was ready, makes you more tired.

  2. But I'm positive that I have so much to offer in the remote raising of your child, whom I have never met! Are you sure you're trying hard enough??? (totally kidding, obviously)...the mind boggles when I hear stories like this. When my turn comes I think I might get little cards printed out, like those ones that exist for noisy movie people. They say something witty about the offense and seems really tidy. Maybe I'll set up a blog for people to go to if they feel they can contribute. And I'll make a little calling card: "Thank you for your comment! There isn't enough time in this supermarket to discuss your groundbreaking ideas on how to fix the poor parenting you identified! Please visit this blog and type out your solutions to life! With thanks, Frazzled Mom Bumbling Through Childrearing.

    I actually think I should make this a business. I could save lives! Even if it's lives of busybodies, it's still worth something, right?


  3. I have the same problem. I don't know how some moms do it all, but I sure wish they could teach me. I am going to check out this site. Thanks so much.

  4. Sorry, this comment should have gone on the above post. Look I can't even figure comments out. lol